Self Compassion

This is a concept that I find personally really tough and that I need to put more effort into. I’ve improved yes. But I still catch myself saying to myself, when things aren’t going well, “what the hell is wrong with you,” “why are you such a loser” and “how could you be such a dumbass.” These are hardly productive and I know they specifically don’t work for me. I’ve personally always done my best work when people give encouragement and built up my confidence; never when they have yelled at me or put me down. So why would I still say these mean things to myself? I think for a long time it was because I didn’t know any better. Now that I am conscious of it, it is all about breaking old habits and patterns that don’t serve me.

We are all flawed in many ways. Fears, doubts and worrying if we are “good enough” for this or that can stop us dead in our tracks and can also make these original flaws seem exponentially greater than they are in reality. How we present these weaknesses though to ourselves and to the people around us can make a huge difference in our dating life and other relationships. If we don’t have enough self compassion to feel whole and loved NOW and with all of our flaws, it won’t matter who might happen to come along. The same result in the long run is the same, unhappiness and feeling disconnected. True, we can work on making ourselves better, and we should do this yes. But practising self love and self compassion is the only sure way to start on the path to long term happiness and success in our relationships. You need to exercise for YOU. You need to eat right because you love YOURSELF. You need to learn about the world around you and strive to be a more interesting person FOR YOU. If you don’t find yourself interesting- then NOBODY will. If you don’t put effort in everyday to take care and love yourself- then potential dating partners won’t either. The effort starts with you, and YES YOU DESERVE THIS.

Self compassion takes COURAGE. Give yourself a break, show yourself some caring, nurturing and understanding and start to take the necessary actions on the journey to a new and better life.

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